The Return of the Nutcracker Princess

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15 Responses to “The Return of the Nutcracker Princess”

  1. Tom Hale says:

    Oh, if only straight guys could frolic, dance, and leap about in joy. Well, we can but only when nobody else is at home and with the curtains drawn – and even then you have to deal with the funny looks you get from the cats.

  2. brightblue says:

    I’m jealous of your city.

  3. briarpatch says:

    The world would be a better place if that sort of unfettered happiness could be expressed all the time and everywhere without worrying about being judged by your peers.

    Which matters more to you? Being happy or facing other people’s disapproval? Living your life according to other people’s approval or disapproval is often a losing game, and you just have to figure out a way to make the disapproval have less of an impact on your actions. For that matter, why do you automatically assume that such actions would be met only with disapproval?

    Of course, I live in San Francisco, the land of fruits and nuts. If someone were to start expressing “unfettered happiness” on the sidewalk in the Financial District, it wouldn’t attract much attention (or open disapproval) unless that unfettered happiness threatened to harm someone. If you started dancing spontaneously on the street here, most people would probably (a) think you were some kind of street performance artist, or (b) assume you were a crazy homeless person, or (c) start clapping and egging you on, or (d) start dancing with you, or (e) pull out their iPhone and post photos you on Facebook with captions like “Only in San Francisco,” or (f) some combination of (a) through (e).

    As a matter of fact, a couple of years ago, I turned onto my street and saw a woman in her sixties or seventies standing in the middle of the street with her arms outstretched and her face pointing at the sky, spinning in circles and singing to herself. It was very “Mary Tyler Moore show opening credits,” except that she was doing this on a deserted street and she didn’t throw her hat into the air. She looked completely blissed out. So I just smiled and waved at her as I passed.

  4. James David says:

    While you lucky west coasters were at The Dance-Along Nutcracker, likeminded folks around Boston were at The Slutcracker. Not participatory, but equal parts queer and amazing.

  5. Fritters says:

    What Would Harvey Do, Now?

    “Help me out of this box, I can’t breathe in here. Help, let me out.”

  6. briarpatch says:

    Oh, if only straight guys could frolic, dance, and leap about in joy. Well, we can but only when nobody else is at home and with the curtains drawn – and even then you have to deal with the funny looks you get from the cats.

    Trust me, every year at the Dance-Along Nutcracker, there are tons of straight men at this show, dancing with their wives and/or kids. Some people dance traditional dances like waltzes, some dance silly dances, and some just give their kids piggy-back rides. And when virtually everyone in the room is frolicking, dancing and leaping about in joy, you have far less reason to worry about people giving you “funny looks.” The whole point of the event is the joy, and the funny looks tend to get left with the coats at the coat check.

  7. Takuan says:

    Rocky Horror, Sing-a-long Sound of Music, Dance-a-long Nutcracker… Fists of Fury then?

  8. Tom Hale says:

    @ briarpatch – Yeah, but you know what I mean – I’m talking about real life – not some sort of magical, imaginary, happy place that you’ve described.

    There is a time when a straight, stuffy male (like myself), can dance and frolic – when he’s alone, playing with his kids while they are still <5 or so. The world would be a better place if that sort of unfettered happiness could be expressed all the time and everywhere without worrying about being judged by your peers.

  9. Tom Hale says:

    cont.

    …while they are still <5 or so. The world would be a better place if that sort of unfettered happiness could be expressed all the time and everywhere without worrying about being judged by your peers.

    – what happened? I don’t know – my last post was intact when I clicked “POST.”

  10. Tom Hale says:

    cont.

    …while they are still less than 5 or so. The world would be a better place if that sort of unfettered happiness could be expressed all the time and everywhere without worrying about being judged by your peers.

    – what happened? I typed the less than symbol – I guess that erased the rest of my post.

  11. Connie H. says:

    Note to Boston area peeps: I just found out that The Slutcracker has been extended another weekend! So if, like me, you missed it the first time around, you’ve got a second shot.

  12. briarpatch says:

    These comments recognize HTML tags. The “less than” symbol is an indicator of the beginning of an HTML tag. For example, if you type (less than)i(greater than), that’s an HTML tag to turn on italics. If you type (less than)(slash)i(greater than), that’s an HTML tag to turn italics off again.

  13. Tom Hale says:

    @ briarpatch – Thank you – I realized my mistake at the end. I took a look at your web site – I’m impressed.

    This whole topic kind of bothers me. Almost every time I see gay men on TV, a movie, or on the internet, they are depicted as flamboyant and goofy – like Jack on Will and Grace. I’d bet my next paycheck that a lot of gay men are just like myself – quiet, reserved, conservative-ish (not conservative as in politics). I realize that extremes in anything will draw media attention, but seriously, gay men are almost always portrayed the same way – flamboyantly effeminate.

    What’s your opinion on this?

  14. briarpatch says:

    My opinion is difficult to summarize meaningfully in just a few sentences.

    If you want to do some serious reading on this subject, please visit GLAAD (the Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation). Their mission is as follows: “The Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD) is dedicated to promoting and ensuring fair, accurate and inclusive representation of people and events in the media as a means of eliminating homophobia and discrimination based on gender identity and sexual orientation.”

    http://www.glaad.org/

  15. briarpatch says:

    Wow, a shout-out from Susie Bright on Boing Boing!

    I have played with the San Francisco Lesbian/Gay Freedom Band since 1991 and performed in every Dance-Along Nutcracker since 1992. I have posted several photos from this year’s Dance-Along Nutcracker on my blog here:
    http://goplayboyplay.blogspot.com/2008/12/dance-along.html

    And even more in a Facebook album:
    http://www.facebook.com/home.php?ref=logo#/album.php?aid=2011414&id=1300955230

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