Nerdy girl's love anthem

Nerdy singer/songwriter Amy Lee Radigan has written a song about the plight of a lovelorn "nerdy girl." It's a delightful little air, and is accompanied by a sweet, fair-use-y video!

(via Neatorama)

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  1. What does she need a sonic screw … driver for so badly???

    OH, it is a metaphor … is it :)

    Cute song, cute nerd girl

  2. Okay, once everyone on the Earth starts to consider themselves a “nerd” or a “geek”, does it then cease to be “cool” to be one?

    1. Cease to be cool to be a nerd/geek? I’m having trouble parsing that… but I guess it sort of makes sense. It’s been a long journey for the nerd/geek.

      1. I prefer “geeknerd”, one word.
        Also rhymes with “goatherd”.

        High on the hill was the lonely geeknerd…

  3. I know it’s meant to be funny, but really… a girl like that would have no problem picking and choosing among the hundreds (thousands?) of guys who would be interested in her!

    Maybe that is the point – so many nerdy guys lusting after her, but she still can’t find love, because nerdy guys are socially inept? I don’t know, really.

  4. In the words of Captain Hammer: “There she is. Cute, hm? Sort of a quiet, nerdy thing. Not my usual, but nice. Anyway.”

  5. @penguinchris: maybe she is socially inept too … and her only way is through song … ? But I get what you mean … she is pretty cute … not what one would expect when googling ‘female nerd’

  6. Her perfect man is Bruce Wayne. Tall, handsome, square jaw, incredibly in shape, very intelligent, oh… and filthy rich.

    I, for one, am incredibly shocked by this revelation. What kind of strange woman wants those things in a man?

  7. I know this theme has been beaten to death, but it’s funny how “nerd” has evolved into something so benign, common, and, uh, un-nerdy.

    In the 1970’s and ’80’s, my best friend was a nerd. Here are his nerd characteristics/qualifications:

    1) awesome at math (is now an engineer)
    2) Dungeon Master at age 7
    3) wore his pants really high above his waist, and had zero sense for (or interest in) fashion
    4) wore thick-rimmed glasses because of poor eyesight, and taped them with masking tape when they broke (un-ironically, of course)
    5) in retrospect may have had mild Asperger’s, though he was plenty social around people who shared his interests, like me
    6) had a bowl-cut hairstyle
    7) was not liked by girls
    8) was not liked by most boys

    I could go on, but you get the picture. This girl, by my definition of “nerd”, is not even remotely close to qualifying as nerdy. Geeky, sure, but not nerdy. Harumph!

  8. Such is the plight of many young women with incredibly high standards. Destined to be ignored or pumped-and-dumped by anyone she finds attractive. All the while being pestered by a swarm of “nice guy” losers.

    Truly this is an unfathomable tragedy.

    1. Most lonely men could easily find a woman by lowering their standards, too. It turns out they don’t want to because it means they’ll end up with someone they aren’t attracted to or don’t like. Am I to take it that the same isn’t true for women?

  9. Cute, but I still prefer the sexy librarian. I checked one out a few years ago and we are growing our own little hybrid army.

    1. Exactly. If she can’t find a date, I’d be S-H-O-C-K-E-D. Really, all she needs to do is just go into the next comic book/game store she sees and announce she’s looking for a Sonic Screw……. Driver. If she’s still in one piece after that I’d be seriously shocked….

      1. I prefer these nerdy girls who don’t need to advertise it:

        handjob, blandjob, I don’t understand job…

          1. Touché! But I enjoy the single entendre nonetheless.

            Maybe we could have a hierarchy: Rocky & Balls > Garfunkel & Oates > this nerdy girl?

            Rocky & Balls are fun, talented and whatnot, but they abuse, IMHO, of the “I’m cuuuuuuuuuute” aspect of things.

  10. She’s brilliant!! I purchased her two songs and look forward to her forthcoming album. Nice choice of the 7th Doctor in the pictures there :)

  11. Utenzil said:

    > She doesn’t look fat, and her skin is pretty clear–
    > she looks like any of the 4,231 girls that have
    > rejected, teased or whispered cruelly about me over
    > the years.

    Quoted for truth. The fact is that she’s *swimming* in a sea of “nice guys” who she wouldn’t give the time of day to, but nonetheless feels compelled to complain that she can’t get a date. Boo hoo.

    I met hundreds of these kinds of women over the years, often getting rejected because I didn’t meet their self-imposed high standards. Then I met a wonderfully sweet Cambodian lady who loved me for who I am. We’ve been married for almost 3 years now and I couldn’t be happier. I’d urge any decent guy to look into meeting ladies from Cambodia, Thailand, Laos or other Southeast Asian countries. Most the women there are very sweet and don’t view guys as competitors or prey- they just want someone to love and be loved by. They’re strong, smart, and funny, and they are a joy to be with.

    Unfortunately, many, many American women are simply too busy being toxic self-important, self-centered, and hyper-sensitive to the long list of flaws they nearly every man to be able to form healthy, lasting relationships with them.

  12. Yeah, she lost about 50 Nerd points getting Aragorn’s name wrong, and worse, confusing it with a crappy YA novel.

    Also, there is such a thing as trying too hard, dear.

    Oh wait. Add those 50 Nerd points back!

  13. So a geeky girl sings about looking for love, and suddenly everyone who’s never met her knows her standards are too high and she’s mean to “nice guys.”

    Yet somehow when Jonathan Coulton sings Code Monkey, I never hear people saying that if a decent-looking, smart, creative guy like him can’t find love, it’s his own fault.

    Nice double-standard, Boingboing.

    1. I guess the question is how much autobiography we should read into each song. I mean, I liked “Skullcrusher Mountain” too, but I never for a moment thought Coulton was an evil kidnap-happy megalomaniac, nor that he often indulged in public sex acts with strangers (1st of May). I dunno– for whatever reason, I didn’t make that disconnect between “performer” and “character” with this one.

  14. > So a geeky girl sings about looking for love, and suddenly
    > everyone who’s never met her knows her standards are too
    > high and she’s mean to “nice guys.”

    Okay, Kreskin, why don’t you tell us why an attractive woman like her with talent and a sense of humor can’t get a date?

    The fact is that she *could*. She could get all the dates she wanted. The truth is that she *won’t*. There are a million guys that would be happy to date her, but somehow she can’t find a single one. What’s more likely- that all of those guys have something wrong with them, or that she does?

    > Nice double-standard, Boingboing.

    Nice way to generalize, qatarperegrine.

    1. > Okay, Kreskin, why don’t you tell us why an attractive woman like her with talent
      > and a sense of humor can’t get a date?

      a) I’m not claiming to be a mentalist here. You’re the one going around berating women for never asking guys despite the fact that they have. (For the record I, like anon, am a nerd girl who is married to the last guy I asked out.)

      b) We don’t know that she can’t get a date. It’s a song. Songs aren’t all autobiographical.

      c) If she can’t get a date, we don’t know why. Maybe she has terrible breath or is a double amputee. Maybe she’s a total bitch. Even if you’re right that she has “something wrong with her,” it’s quite a leap to decide that you know specifically what her shortcoming is on the basis of hearing her sing for three minutes.

      d) If a geek dude can’t get a date, do you similarly conclude that the problem must be with him and not with all the girls who aren’t interested?

  15. GOD DAMMIT, was reeled in by ‘nerdy girl’ and a picture of Adam West as Batman. Terrible song!

    Oh and I pretty-much agree she’s likely not a ‘nerd’.

    Pft.

  16. Maybe girls like this could get more dates if guys would stop immediately assuming their standards are too high, therefore not even making an attempt to talk to them.

    As a cute nerdy girl who even MAKES COMICS, I can attest to the number of cute nerdy guys who run the other way. It has nothing to do with standards and everything to do with that most of these guys tend to be socially awkward and become even MORE awkward when they see a girl they like and just can’t seem to believe that said cute nerdy girl likes them too.

    1. > Maybe girls like this could get more dates if guys
      > would stop immediately assuming their standards are
      > too high, therefore not even making an attempt to
      > talk to them.

      Right. And how many of these guys have you you approached and asked out on a date? I’m going to go out on a limb here and guess the number is “0”.

      > these guys tend to be socially awkward and become even
      > MORE awkward when they see a girl they like and just
      > can’t seem to believe that said cute nerdy girl likes
      > them too.

      It sounds like your casual labeling of them as “socially awkward” is your way of dismissing them. Again, how many of these guys have *you* gone up to and actually asked out on a date? If the number is zero, stop complaining. You’re an adult woman, smart, liberated, self-aware, etc etc etc, but you won’t lower yourself to asking any of them out on a date. You won’t risk the possibility of rejection because that’s the guy’s job, right?

      It’s a shame to see all these wonderful, talented women, locked up by their own insecurities…unable to step outside their own self-imposed gender roles.

  17. “Right. And how many of these guys have you {sic} you approached and asked out on a date? I’m going to go out on a limb here and guess the number is “0”

    Married to the last one I asked.

  18. “Again, how many of these guys have *you* gone up to and actually asked out on a date? If the number is zero, stop complaining.”

    Does this mean I can keep complaining, then?

    (rolls eyes)

    Btw, just to point out: the girl in this video is reading the kinds of comics pretty much every female I know was inducted into comics by that wasn’t through manga and would immediately point out and associate with their own nerdiness and that NO “I’m pretending to be a nerd to get attention and hits” type female would know of. Though I’m more a Craig Thompson fan myself … Also, her clear lack of ability to apply makeup should be an immediate give-away. :P (which is adorable in its own way!)

    Also, aren’t “nerdy” and “socially awkward” pretty much synonymous? At least in today’s modern English-speaking society. Though if you want to play semantics, technically a nerd is really just somebody passionately dedicated to a single field of interest. Really, a guy passionately dedicated to football is just as much of a nerd as anybody else. TECHNICALLY.

    I think perhaps we all really mean “dork” or “geek”, not “nerd”.

  19. The mental castration of the males on this site who persist in believing it’s always the girl’s fault is perpetually perplexing to me. I mean, the girl made a freakin’ VIDEO to wave her flag and say “Hey there! I like guys like you! HINT HINT.” And yet that isn’t enough unless we rip your pants off and start giving you blow jobs to indicated our attraction.

    You all suck.

  20. Hi there,

    wanted to chime in, as a socially awkward guy (with autism!) who has a hot nerdy girlfriend, on two points.

    One, neither my girlfriend, nor any of the cute nerdy women who I have the fortune of making up the majority of my circle of friends, have any problem approaching guys. At all. The problem is, despite hilarious claims like “If she were to walk into a comic store we’d ram her to death with our boners before she listed her favorite Alan Moore books!”, nerd boys usually retreat like a snail’s eye or become repellantly awkward in the face of a frank advance.

    Two, because I mustered the grace and control to behave appealingly while expressing my interests, nights of geeking out over printing inks and favorite comics books turned into us falling in love and living together.

    Approach cute girls, behave like a human being when approached or approaching, and maybe work on some of that creepy simmering misogyny I see bubbling up in these posts, nerd boys.

    1. Anon, said,
      > maybe work on some of that creepy simmering misogyny
      > I see bubbling up in these posts

      Criticism isn’t misogyny. That’s why there are two different words for for these things.

      qatarperegrine said,
      “If a geek dude can’t get a date, do you similarly conclude that the problem must be with him and not with all the girls who aren’t interested?”

      Nope. Never said that about her, either, although given the dynamics of male/female dating I suspect it’s more likely.

  21. What if – I know I’m going out on a limb here, but just stay with me – what if it’s just a silly song, and the premise of not being able to get a date was simply an excuse to mention nerdy stuff she likes?

    I know, I know… too crazy.

  22. Speaking as a nerd who has a nerd daughter the complaint I hear from her is “as soon as I mention I play WoW or HALO most guys freak out and get all quiet” and she knows thay play those games as well whats up with that

  23. I was just reading the comments. I really like this video. I get that people think shes not nerdy or a geek, but has anybody thought that maybe its just a song? Just a song, and just a music video? She might be dating somebody, but the girl in the song isn’t? I don’t think its a personal ad. I like that she had the guts to put up her first video for the world to see. When I looked it got 65,000 hits in a week so some other people must like it too. The song, to me, is about how people should find somebody right for them. I like it. I think she is going to be big. but thats just me.

  24. For the record, Amy has a boyfriend and isn’t playing for the purposes of whinging or picking up. She legitimately enjoys plenty of sci-fi and other nerd culture (as well as more stereotypically girly dorky things like musical theatre), but isn’t shy or awkward, if that’s a requisite to your archetype of a proper nerdy girl. She’s clever and likes writing and performing things that amuse people. That’s pretty much it.

    1. “legitimately enjoys”… Do we need a certificate now?? You, female: provide concise proof that you are, indeed, nerdy, or begone!

      We could call it the “Olivia Munn” test.

  25. Cute song,

    Cute kid.

    Very entertaining. Being a geek of the TRS-80 era, and father of a geek daughter, I have seen a bit of what happens to girls like this. I also see many guys miss the proverbial boat to go after the empty headed pieces of fluff and ignore the intelligent geek girl right in front of them (are you listening Justin?) Sorry, obnoxious parental unit mode disengaged.

  26. Dear Amy Lee Radigan,

    I dedicate this song to you, in the hopes that such an unconventional woman can find a somewhat more, “conventional love.”

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fAzwdT3jVIg

    But seriously folks, let’s not forget the rank absurdity of this argument. For every minute we spend posting on this forum, we are not in fact out stalking the local game shops, anime conventions, or library reference sections for our perfect copulative pairing. So let’s go out into that big, scary world and find us some action!

    And for those of us in the nerd-o-verse lucky enough to already be getting some regular lovin’: kudos, and please share your secret magicks with the rest of the tribe.

  27. Lol, really you guys. Its a song, it doesnt mean its all true. But like fmac says, Amy does have a boyfriend, she is one of the sweetest people you will ever meet. Also she is actually quite nerdy, but there is only so far that one can go in the context of a song to make the song work. Give her a break, its her first big song and look at how much attention it has gotten in such a short time.

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