A medal for completing breast cancer treatment


53 Responses to “A medal for completing breast cancer treatment”

  1. So glad to have you with us, Xeni. Thank you for your candor and generosity in sharing this fight with us; it’s about time someone pulled the pink wool from our eyes. 

    As an aside, my mom’s “cancer consolation prize” was a new dog. He’s an ugly mutt, but he was a big part of her healing process and the family wouldn’t be the same without him.

  2. Boundegar says:

    You earned that medal.

  3. spacedoggy says:

    <3 Xeni, Thanks for all the posts through your roller-coaster of a year, You're an inspiration to so many.

  4. gsilas says:

    That’s wonderful to read Xeni, from the medal to your thoughts and reflections.  Your journalistic approach to this disease has been a wonderful respite from the voodoo one often reads as a scientist in the cancer community.  Best wishes to you, we love you here at MSKCC (and Maggie too!)

  5. Samurai Jenn says:

    If I ever have to go through anything like this, I hope even just half of the poise and strength you’ve shown.  You’re just damn awesome.

  6. Everyone should get a medal for going through the hell that is breast cancer treatment. While the recovery and dealing with the aftermath of treatment is often tougher than expected, I’m so glad to see you working your way through it.

  7. Christopher says:

    In his book about his battle with cancer the comedian Robert Schimmel told an inspiring story about his lowest point. He was in such despair he was contemplating suicide. His father, a Holocaust survivor, told him about being marched to a concentration camp and being told by a guard with a gun, “Keep walking.” His father realized that, in spite of being exhausted, in spite of going to almost certain death, to stop walking would mean death. As long as he was walking he was still alive.

    You’ve earned a medal for coming this far. Thank you, Ms. Jardin, for continuing to walk.

  8. Tavie says:

    Love and many many many many many WTGs to you, brave and wonderful Xeni.

  9. Dwen Dooley says:

    Congratulations and best wishes!  Fire up an avatar and come see Relay For Life of Second Life in July if you get the chance. It’s worth seeing!

  10. rattypilgrim says:

    Yes, life and love are all that matter. Peace.

  11. AnneMarie says:

    I love your medal. I love the words on the back. I hate that we are now “sisters” but I DO love you…. I still remember that final tweet on that horrible day.  The single most powerful thing I’ve ever seen happen in real time on twitter. EVER.


  12. Alan Miles says:

    Welcome to the Remission club!  :-)   We’re all slightly battle-scarred, but *way* tougher than before. 
    P.S. I always figured there should be a cancer merit badge; somebody should stitch up one of those…

  13. Unanimous Cowherd says:

    Congratulations. Now I’m weeping. For you, for your story, and for those I know personally who have whipped cancer’s ass. And for those who didn’t. Stay well.

  14. Diego Arias says:

    Very well done!!! :)

  15. surreality says:

     And another teary, appreciative comment from this person here. thank you for bringing the struggles of cancer to light.

  16. hymenopterid says:

    Wow.  So great to hear.  Watching you battle cancer In a lot of ways makes me think of watching Felix Bumgartner’s jump from space yesterday.  It might seem like a strange comparison but it makes sense if you think about it.  Thank you for sharing.  Thanks for being awesome, and congratulations on your milestone.

  17. Pres says:

    Glad you kicked the big C’s butt. :-)

  18. Valerie Pie says:

    This is beautiful and true. I’m grateful to those people that have the heart to get us through dark hours.

  19. Kludgegrrl says:

    I love the medal, and love what it represents even more.  Eloquently put.  I hope you are at least considering publishing a book about what you have been through so far…  I am sure that it would help many (and might help you with some of the financial challenges of battling cancer).

  20. WOW!!!  You’re story is my story….thanks for putting it into words….so well said.  Keep fighting…..

  21. fergus1948 says:

    Congratulations for being so amazing. Good luck in everything you do Xeni.

  22. Jody Schoger says:

    Stomping cancer’s sorry, sorry ass.

    How grateful those of us out here in cancerland are for YOU. From the first day you spoke fearlessly and honestly about what treatment is like. 

    And I love your medal.

    Thank you again for an awesome post.


  23. chgoliz says:

    Excellent medal!  Excellent friend, to make that medal for you.

    Friends really do get you through it. Friends, and science.

  24. elix says:

    That reminds me; I need to turn FoldingatHome  back on so I can help kick cancer’s ass (that’s the hope). Discus refuses to let me even use the at symbol without trying to hotlink it into a user profile reference. >:[

    Thank you so much for fighting, Xeni, and not giving up. A lot of people’ve expressed their support, and I’m one of them, but I also want to recognize that you went through so much and didn’t give up, and we are all richer for it.

    Thank you for not giving up. No radiation, no poison, and certainly no cancer can diminish the fact that you are a wonderful person, and you’re still alive. Thank you.

  25. Praise science!

    Wishing you the best, Xeni!

  26. Ameena Meer says:

    SO proud of you, xeni. not only for making through but also for being “out” about your cancer. it’s an epidemic and we need to let everyone know so no one suffers through it alone. if you’re looking for some CAM to help you recover faster, i recommend a few things that worked for me. amongst them, brennan healing science and hypnosis… http://amazonsofnyc.blogspot.com/2012/10/the-c-word-laura-kepshire-and-brennan.html

  27. bigfatlamer says:

    That is awesome! So is the fact that you’re done with your treatment. 

    If he were to make those on a larger scale (and at a reasonable price), I would buy them for every single one of my patients…every damn one. Even the ones who don’t “win.” I’m not kidding. Tell him to get the MakerBot cranking.

  28. andreasma says:

    Made this cancer bi-athlete (Cut, Burn), cry. 

    I don’t think I deserve a medal (mine was a walk by comparison), but I did get a certificate of participation/completion: the one line “clear/negative” on my final CT assessment. Maybe I should frame it, you’re giving me ideas.

    You have great friends Xeni. 

  29. Lani Horn says:

    great job, my friend. i give you a medal for your unflinching honesty, for never forgetting others who are going through the same or worse. you have kept your heart big and whole through this whole ordeal, which speaks volumes about the astonishingly beautiful quality of your character.

    love, CB

  30. cblamey says:

    Join the club, girl! I just hit my 5 year post-treatment anniversary this month. I’m off the Arimidex. Life is good!

  31. Jenonymous says:


    One of my best friend’s wife is going through Stage 3 treatment now, while also dealing with 2 small children (4 and 6) and pretty much being told that she WILL lose her job once she uses up all of her sick days.  Oh yeah, she also had treatment interruptions because she got strep from her 6-year old, and also had to suspend treatment when the 4 year old brought lice into the house on her first day of Pre-K (got sent home) and they had to use the stupid-strong topical in the house to get rid of them.  The only silver lining, as she wryly noted, was that she herself had already lost all her hair and therefore wasn’t harboring…

    Is there a snowman’s chance in Hell, perhaps, that one could purchase these medals with the proceeds going to a “friends and family” support group of some sort?  There are days when she just needs help, and her hubby-my pal–is dangerously close to using up all of his sick days and FMLA time dealing with all of this.  If he loses his job, the whole crew is fucked seventeen ways to Sunday.

    Congratulations for reaching the end of your own road through Hades, may you never, ever have to revisit it ever ever again.

  32. djcarlito says:

    Xeni, you are amazing. Courage and determination are two traits you’ve always had.. among many others that make you the incredible sister I love so much.  Congratulations on making it through this incredible trial of endurance.. I wish you strength and love and health from here on out – keep winning Xeni! 

  33. Skye MacLeod says:

    Thank you for such a wonderful and inspiring post Xeni.

  34. nixiebunny says:

    Congratulations on making it through treatment. I hope you stay in remission for a long, long time. 

    I love the medal, too. Science deserves way more credit than prayer for your current good health, as I gently remind anyone who ever brings up prayer in front of me as a cure for cancer.

  35. Jen Bekman says:

    Brava, Xeni. Good health + strength to you, and THANK YOU for all you’ve done for others throughout all of this. Truly amazing + inspiring. xoxo.

  36. Mitchell Glaser says:

    Good on you, mate!

  37. Toby Graves says:

    So good to hear.  Best wishes for your future health!

  38. Halloween_Jack says:

    What an excellent medal.

  39. john bau says:

    Im so happy to hear that Xeni, keep on kickin’ Cancers fucked up ass!

    My sweet friend, Dessi, just lost this sunday: Fuck You, Cancer!

  40. I read recently about “SuperSnöret” (loosely translated, “the Super String”) that the Swedish Childhood Cancer Foundation is giving to children under cancer treatment. The children receives a new bead representing every treatment, chemo, x-ray etc. that they go through.

    Swedish version:

    Google translated version:

  41. Roba says:

    Happy to hear that Xeni.

  42. Thanks for this amazing expression of courage and clear-headed intelligence. THIS raises “awareness,” not pink crap.

  43. Sophie says:

    My mum needs one of these too. 

  44. coderedd says:

    Holy cow. I was absolutely blown away by the giving of this gift and how eloquently you summed up your experiences. Keep on kicking ass and taking names. You’ve sure inspired me to do the same!

  45. lauren624 says:

    Oh My God, I love your blog and sooo dig that medal. I blog about cancer and the crappiness of it too, and really about the part two of it…where you are. You keep going girl, one day this will seem smaller, I promise, but it will. Granted, I am six years out, but you do get there and go “damn, I did it.”


  46. Stephanie Poole says:

    Another weepy commenter here. I am so proud of you for making it through treatment with grace, humor and honesty. Your struggle has touched me very deeply and knowing that you are (mostly) on the other side is a joy. Keep fighting, Xeni. You’ve got a great family, great friends, and lots of faceless Internet folks behind you… nothing can stop you now.

  47. Liz says:

    I love your medal, and your spot-on description of the breast cancer experience (8 months down Tamoxifen Highway I have developed an antipathy to the word ‘journey’!). Wishing you strength for the next chapter. I was given a ukulele after finishing active treatment, and am determined to learn to play the hell out of it. Sending you the (lopsided) wave of a sista from Darwin, Australia….

  48. Thanks for your ongoing candor and compassion. Awesome medal! 

  49. Jen Hamilton says:

    Thank you for stretching yourself across this altar.  We can only hope it opens eyes.  Hearts hope with you.

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