I’m in somewhat of a rare position as someone who was raised by two divorced parents, one a hairy right-wing leather-clad biker from the deep South with many of the associated stereotypical behaviors of all of those adjectives and a Reformed Jew Atheist feminist mother from the Pacific Northwest, again with basically all of the associated stereotypes inherent.

I speak redneck and Yiddish (well I can swear in Yiddish anyhow) and like a blintz with my pigs feet. I’ve seen and, at least as a kid and young adult, practiced a lot of the hypocrisies of both polar extremes without realizing that they were even in conflict.

These bikies (Australian term for bikers which I love) sincerely care about the health of the people they are raising funds for and just as sincerely are ignorant of how their phrasing may be hurtful or threatening to the same group they want to assist (oh I’m sure there are just as many genuine misogynists in bikie culture as there is in any other including progressive leftist culture). Knowing the former to be true and using that to inform how you go about changing the latter seems, to me at least, the only way to begin to change minds and cultures.

I feel like this is probably true of every different culture group.

You can also review them on Yelp and, if you bought something, fill out a Better Business Bureau report.

But you’d be the first to pint out that’s a false equivalence.

Appreciating that someone is a horrible human being, and that what they’ve done is terrible; whilst also not seeing the need to describe the persons appearance as ‘douchey’, is not ‘defending’ them. What a crock of shit.

(Also douche is totally viable as a non-misogynistic turn of phrase, you get anal douches!)

If you just want to promote that you’re giving money to charity then I guess it works, otherwise you’re just reducing the value of your contribution.

Normally I don’t use the word “douche” because it’s a gender-specific product, but I think you’ve hit the nail on the head….in this case, it’s exactly the right term.

Cancer research is a great example. How many cancer research organizations do you have in your local neighborhood? Cancer itself is very local, but chances are if you want to donate money that will go towards funding science, it’s not going to be local.

I could detect the exploitation, yet happy to be getting so much attention debate, going on in their confused brains. Now I know!

If your intention was to scam charities, then good. I hope your business fails.