Comments on: Resolution for 2013: Don't catch the clap http://boingboing.net/2012/12/17/resolution-for-2012-dont-ca.html Brain candy for Happy Mutants Wed, 19 Jun 2013 07:34:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.1 By: MurasakiMadness http://boingboing.net/2012/12/17/resolution-for-2012-dont-ca.html#comment-1612046 MurasakiMadness Wed, 19 Dec 2012 20:08:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=200972#comment-1612046 And you can do things with the Saran wrap that aren't hygienic options otherwise. A lot of the framing for barriers is just making it another type of sex toy instead of "Oh, well...I guess we have to go out and buy condoms now....*heavy sigh of disdain*" And you can do things with the Saran wrap that aren’t hygienic options otherwise. A lot of the framing for barriers is just making it another type of sex toy instead of “Oh, well…I guess we have to go out and buy condoms now….*heavy sigh of disdain*”

]]> By: MurasakiMadness http://boingboing.net/2012/12/17/resolution-for-2012-dont-ca.html#comment-1612038 MurasakiMadness Wed, 19 Dec 2012 19:58:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=200972#comment-1612038 Everyone has their own priorities and boundaries. Though, even wanting a monogamous relationship (in practice and label, no cheating), one could meet someone they really hit it off with who happens to have something that's not going away anytime soon. All else in the relationship being A-OK, a dental dam or other protection is a small investment for a lot of fun.  Then there's cases where something's gone latent, and suddenly shows up in a test after the relationship has started. Instead of dumping the person who's heartbroken at having something and possibly exposing you to it, you can make a condom bouquet or pick up some latex gloves along with the flowers. It's also helpful to talk openly about these things without shaming, so that a lot of very nice and attractive people out there don't have to feel like they're doomed to either lying or lovelorn leprosy. Everyone has their own priorities and boundaries. Though, even wanting a monogamous relationship (in practice and label, no cheating), one could meet someone they really hit it off with who happens to have something that’s not going away anytime soon. All else in the relationship being A-OK, a dental dam or other protection is a small investment for a lot of fun. 

Then there’s cases where something’s gone latent, and suddenly shows up in a test after the relationship has started. Instead of dumping the person who’s heartbroken at having something and possibly exposing you to it, you can make a condom bouquet or pick up some latex gloves along with the flowers.

It’s also helpful to talk openly about these things without shaming, so that a lot of very nice and attractive people out there don’t have to feel like they’re doomed to either lying or lovelorn leprosy.

]]> By: bcsizemo http://boingboing.net/2012/12/17/resolution-for-2012-dont-ca.html#comment-1610566 bcsizemo Tue, 18 Dec 2012 06:26:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=200972#comment-1610566 While this might be TMI, The need to use a dental dam alone would be a big reason for me to <b>not</b> have sex outside of a committed, exclusive, tested-clean relationship. While this might be TMI,

The need to use a dental dam alone would be a big reason for me to not have sex outside of a committed, exclusive, tested-clean relationship.

]]> By: gwailo_joe http://boingboing.net/2012/12/17/resolution-for-2012-dont-ca.html#comment-1610460 gwailo_joe Tue, 18 Dec 2012 02:57:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=200972#comment-1610460 I should have known having unprotected sex with an IV drug using sex worker was a bad idea. (I did know...but, what the hell: what were the chances?) Then...it started to burn a little bit.  Then it started to burn A LOT.  I did not have health insurance at the time so I figured it would 'go away'... No.  In fact, my lymph nodes near my abdomen started to swell so much I thought I had a hernia.  So: off to the Emergency!  The Doc stuck a Q-tip right the hell up my pee-hole: that was memorable.  And the $80 for the medicine...at the time it felt like a lot of money: looking back; best eighty bucks I may have ever spent. Did I learn my lesson?  Somewhat. But...protected oral sex?  Shuuuuuure...good luck with that. I should have known having unprotected sex with an IV drug using sex worker was a bad idea.

(I did know…but, what the hell: what were the chances?)

Then…it started to burn a little bit.  Then it started to burn A LOT.  I did not have health insurance at the time so I figured it would ‘go away’…

No.  In fact, my lymph nodes near my abdomen started to swell so much I thought I had a hernia.  So: off to the Emergency!  The Doc stuck a Q-tip right the hell up my pee-hole: that was memorable.  And the $80 for the medicine…at the time it felt like a lot of money: looking back; best eighty bucks I may have ever spent.

Did I learn my lesson?  Somewhat.

But…protected oral sex?  Shuuuuuure…good luck with that.

]]> By: murfle http://boingboing.net/2012/12/17/resolution-for-2012-dont-ca.html#comment-1610434 murfle Tue, 18 Dec 2012 02:01:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=200972#comment-1610434 Yup. Generally, my partners and my partners' partners get tested regularly. But if for some reason there's any doubt, I do use dental dams. Honestly, they're not all that bad.  I'm not particularly scrupulous about using condoms for receiving oral sex though - this is something I should probably change. Yup. Generally, my partners and my partners’ partners get tested regularly. But if for some reason there’s any doubt, I do use dental dams. Honestly, they’re not all that bad. 

I’m not particularly scrupulous about using condoms for receiving oral sex though – this is something I should probably change.

]]> By: Vinnie Tesla http://boingboing.net/2012/12/17/resolution-for-2012-dont-ca.html#comment-1610432 Vinnie Tesla Tue, 18 Dec 2012 01:55:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=200972#comment-1610432  I find it considerably more fun. YMMV.  I find it considerably more fun. YMMV.

]]> By: Antinous / Moderator http://boingboing.net/2012/12/17/resolution-for-2012-dont-ca.html#comment-1610352 Antinous / Moderator Mon, 17 Dec 2012 23:45:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=200972#comment-1610352 It seems about as likely to be followed as abstinence. It seems about as likely to be followed as abstinence.

]]> By: IanM_66 http://boingboing.net/2012/12/17/resolution-for-2012-dont-ca.html#comment-1610295 IanM_66 Mon, 17 Dec 2012 22:16:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=200972#comment-1610295 "Your best defense is now, most definitely, offense." This doesn't really make any sense in this context, especially when you follow it up by recommending typical precautions that very much fall into the category of "defense" against the disease. "Offense" would be going after Gonorrhea and trying to hurt it before it hurts you, say by developing a counter-disease in the form of nanomachine bacteria that hunt down and kill Gonorrhea bacteria (yes, it's a bacteria, just checked). Or something. But just doing things like using protection is the definition of "defense". They're almost synonyms. Just saying. I know it's beside the point. Stuck out at me, though. “Your best defense is now, most definitely, offense.”

This doesn’t really make any sense in this context, especially when you follow it up by recommending typical precautions that very much fall into the category of “defense” against the disease. “Offense” would be going after Gonorrhea and trying to hurt it before it hurts you, say by developing a counter-disease in the form of nanomachine bacteria that hunt down and kill Gonorrhea bacteria (yes, it’s a bacteria, just checked). Or something. But just doing things like using protection is the definition of “defense”. They’re almost synonyms.

Just saying. I know it’s beside the point. Stuck out at me, though.

]]> By: CH http://boingboing.net/2012/12/17/resolution-for-2012-dont-ca.html#comment-1610289 CH Mon, 17 Dec 2012 22:11:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=200972#comment-1610289 Yeah... well... if that thought keeps you happy at night, that there are others who are guaranteed to not get it either, then go right ahead holding on to it. Yeah… well… if that thought keeps you happy at night, that there are others who are guaranteed to not get it either, then go right ahead holding on to it.

]]> By: PlutoniumX http://boingboing.net/2012/12/17/resolution-for-2012-dont-ca.html#comment-1610245 PlutoniumX Mon, 17 Dec 2012 21:39:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=200972#comment-1610245  Sheezus!  The slow clap would be even worse.  There is no antibiotic for that.  Sheezus!  The slow clap would be even worse.  There is no antibiotic for that.

]]> By: orwell http://boingboing.net/2012/12/17/resolution-for-2012-dont-ca.html#comment-1610220 orwell Mon, 17 Dec 2012 21:21:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=200972#comment-1610220 When did you get "The Clapper"? November 1964, Dutch east indies, shore leave... When did you get “The Clapper”?

November 1964, Dutch east indies, shore leave…

]]> By: Vinnie Tesla http://boingboing.net/2012/12/17/resolution-for-2012-dont-ca.html#comment-1610201 Vinnie Tesla Mon, 17 Dec 2012 21:12:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=200972#comment-1610201  Yes. For sex with anyone who isn't my partner, I use it giving & receiving.  I generally prefer Saran wrap to dental dams. Trojan makes a condom that is unlubricated and has no reservoir tip (which can trigger the gag reflex).  Yes. For sex with anyone who isn’t my partner, I use it giving & receiving.  I generally prefer Saran wrap to dental dams. Trojan makes a condom that is unlubricated and has no reservoir tip (which can trigger the gag reflex).

]]> By: Ashley Yakeley http://boingboing.net/2012/12/17/resolution-for-2012-dont-ca.html#comment-1610196 Ashley Yakeley Mon, 17 Dec 2012 21:10:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=200972#comment-1610196 "Get yourself tested. Make sure your sexual partners are tested (oral sex, too!). And use barrier protection (oral sex, too!)" “Get yourself tested. Make sure your sexual partners are tested (oral sex, too!). And use barrier protection (oral sex, too!)”

]]> By: feetleet http://boingboing.net/2012/12/17/resolution-for-2012-dont-ca.html#comment-1610187 feetleet Mon, 17 Dec 2012 21:07:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=200972#comment-1610187 Also - antibiotics will be rationed for the wounded, post-apocalypse. Slow clap. Also – antibiotics will be rationed for the wounded, post-apocalypse.

Slow clap.

]]> By: AquaDad18 http://boingboing.net/2012/12/17/resolution-for-2012-dont-ca.html#comment-1610178 AquaDad18 Mon, 17 Dec 2012 21:04:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=200972#comment-1610178 Partner? Millions of nerds everywhere paused for a moment, giggled nervously, and went back to playing Call of Duty. Later, they might ask a knowing buddy if Barrier Protection was some kind of new perk. (I still haven't gotten an answer) Partner? Millions of nerds everywhere paused for a moment, giggled nervously, and went back to playing Call of Duty. Later, they might ask a knowing buddy if Barrier Protection was some kind of new perk. (I still haven’t gotten an answer)

]]> By: Jerril http://boingboing.net/2012/12/17/resolution-for-2012-dont-ca.html#comment-1610131 Jerril Mon, 17 Dec 2012 20:37:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=200972#comment-1610131 I honestly can't imagine being outside of a lifetime, committed, exclusive, tested-clean relationship and <b>not</b> using a barrier for oral sex. (I also have a firm policy on being open to negotiated changes in that status, because it's way better than discovering the hard way that you now have third-hand AIDS or something). I honestly can’t imagine being outside of a lifetime, committed, exclusive, tested-clean relationship and not using a barrier for oral sex. (I also have a firm policy on being open to negotiated changes in that status, because it’s way better than discovering the hard way that you now have third-hand AIDS or something).

]]> By: Jerril http://boingboing.net/2012/12/17/resolution-for-2012-dont-ca.html#comment-1610133 Jerril Mon, 17 Dec 2012 20:37:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=200972#comment-1610133  And for everyone else your solution is?  And for everyone else your solution is?

]]> By: Hazel Edmunds http://boingboing.net/2012/12/17/resolution-for-2012-dont-ca.html#comment-1610049 Hazel Edmunds Mon, 17 Dec 2012 19:47:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=200972#comment-1610049 My mind boggles at the thought but I've had the same partner exclusively for a VERY long time. My mind boggles at the thought but I’ve had the same partner exclusively for a VERY long time.

]]> By: Andrew MacCormack http://boingboing.net/2012/12/17/resolution-for-2012-dont-ca.html#comment-1610044 Andrew MacCormack Mon, 17 Dec 2012 19:46:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=200972#comment-1610044 Or, of course, you could have the situation where both partners are monogamous for life, but that's just crazy talk, right! Or, of course, you could have the situation where both partners are monogamous for life, but that’s just crazy talk, right!

]]> By: MurasakiMadness http://boingboing.net/2012/12/17/resolution-for-2012-dont-ca.html#comment-1610041 MurasakiMadness Mon, 17 Dec 2012 19:45:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=200972#comment-1610041 Yep. Flavored condoms can do double duty as dental dams: just snip off the tip and cut along one side. Presto Chango, no clap-o! :) Yep. Flavored condoms can do double duty as dental dams: just snip off the tip and cut along one side. Presto Chango, no clap-o! :)

]]> By: David B http://boingboing.net/2012/12/17/resolution-for-2012-dont-ca.html#comment-1610014 David B Mon, 17 Dec 2012 19:33:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=200972#comment-1610014 Genuine curiosity - does anyone really use barrier protection for oral sex? Genuine curiosity - does anyone really use barrier protection for oral sex?

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