Losing a mom to cancer soon after becoming one

Amy Joyce writes about losing her mother to cancer, not long after she became a mom herself. "When I started thinking about writing about losing my mom, I thought I would be able to fill pages with what exactly has been lost. But it sort of comes down to one thing that my wise 3-year-old said recently, when he didn’t want me to leave his room after a prolonged bath-books-bed routine. He grabbed my arm and wouldn’t let go and whined: 'But I want you forever!'" (HT: @aileengraef)


  1. I lost my mother to cancer the year I became a father. Then our daughter lost her mother the year after she became a mother herself.  It took me a good five years to even start to heal from just the former loss–I was too busy!–and I hope it won’t take my daughter as long, since she has cancer herself.  At least my granddaughter has some memories of her Nana; our daughter has no memories of my Mom; there’s just a single photo of them together.

  2. Lesson 1 to teach your child: Nothing is forever. Not your parents. Not even the Universe. Prepare to say goodbye to people, things, everything. Everything “dies”. Transience is the way of all things. Life is much easier when one finally comes to accept this fact.

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