So my Mom was wrong

But is she hot?

“It’s kind of brave of you to wear that as the only man in a roomful of women, not that you don’t look amazing!!”

“So, do you find that as a young, quite attractive man it’s hard for women to take you seriously? Or are they just looking at your body?”

“So are you going to stop doing this when you become a father? Oh, who am I kidding, what father has the time to do anything except be a father?”

“Are the women you date intimidated by how smart of a man you are? I bet they are.”

“It’s interesting to meet men doing this… I mean, most men’s brains aren’t cut out for this sort of thing.”

“If he didn’t want people thinking about his looks, he wouldn’t have posted that picture. He would have posted an uglier one or something.”

“I’m so glad you men are breaking into this field. I could certainly use some colleagues who are a pleasure to look at as well as talk to!”

“Seriously? He says he’s being sexually harassed?…. That must be a REALLY bad picture. Or he’s got a killer body.”

If regularly getting comments and remarks about one’s degree of ornamental value, even when it has nothing to do ones’ profession and current discourse, is what you refer to as ‘extreme’, then yes. That’s exactly what I thought this post was talking about.

ETA (because reply won’t work): Wow, Cow. I gotta say, I see you around a lot here and never realized you would think I was yelling at you or ‘having management issues’. My ‘punch in the face’ was a bit tongue-in-cheek BTW, which I thought wasn’t really at odds with the rest of the thread’s tone (and the fact that it is a common metaphor for people in really annoying situations).

I honestly thought we were just discussing about the topic at hand. I even thought we agreed on some level (obviously *I* was misreading you as much as you did me). Really dismayed that you read ‘vicious anger issues’ out of this conversation.

EDIT 2: Look man, can you turn off the fuck-you snark for 2 seconds? Since my ‘punch’ hyperbole was obviously offensive, I APOLOGIZE. I earnestly didn’t mean to freak out people, it was snark.

That’s what I meant (perhaps I wasn’t clear?)

Most men don’t usually find that kind of response offensive because it hasn’t been dished out to the extreme to them. If they’d get it every day or week, systematically, they would want it to stop, just like women.

ETA: Maybe you meant that this effort is a bit pointless because, since it is only one day, it’s just going to seem like cute/funny jokes to most men*. A single day can’t replicate the way the pernicious behaviour REALLY feels to women because it is, as usual, a novelty and not something they’ll suddenly have to deal with every day, good or bad.

If so, I did have the exact same thought.

*To clarify: Most men who think that this kind of remarks are totally harmless. Men who don’t engage in this don’t really need this kind of ‘reminder’: It’s like preaching to the choir.

Can you really say something is extreme if it informs the daily lives of half the population? I think that’s kind of the point of this sort of thing

There must be a misunderstanding. I’m not saying anything is wrong with “Objectify a Male Tech Writer Day”. I was responding to the post I was replying to (click the “Context” button of my previous post).

From what I understand “Objectify a Male Tech Writer Day” doesn’t involve badgering a male until he punches you in the face. ^_^

No

Why so absolutist and black & white? I said “more than few”, not all males.

It’s a bit more grey than you presume… observe:

http://mindhacks.com/2007/09/13/would-you-go-to-bed-with-me/

https://docs.google.com/viewer?a=v&q=cache:Kqre0c62cYsJ:https://psy.psych.colostate.edu/Research/Fall/Article5.pdf+&hl=en&gl=us&pid=bl&srcid=ADGEESiE3R7xkDKxIfBqdgnXw4wLqlkESktLv5xrFDztfdb15AFicnJoG1JSZAdjsMAiJPl_E3_KSkAR186jzokNq1OsOpumcS-4jy4jZzlWI86Gmtj9INRxDNvwWstvGHhJZTG3ZnIF&sig=AHIEtbTfSbRtS2BZi8nr7m_C7JE3COozyg

Just something to chew on.

Just look at ‘em.

If literature and film is any guide (I will try not bring ‘personal research’ into this), the male fantasies in which the attractive, available women appear usually include the man having supernatural prowess in combat, athletics, business, vehicle operation, et cetera. The sexual attention is a reward for personal competence in a respected, skill-based activity. That’s quite a bit different from personal competence being ignored because of said sexual attention, as it is in objectification. 

And if not, Felton, I’m sure you could offer up some pointers.