Comments on: Better orgasms promised

By: RevelryByNight

RevelryByNight — Tue, 05 Feb 2013 04:26:00 +0000

Except, of course, that women masturbating is a very new concept for much of our culture’s consciousness. Male masturbation may be a joke, but female masturbation is still considered imprudent, grotesque, slutty, and a “threat” to men.

I agree we need pan-gender sexual education. However, the reason we have all these devices, toys, and shops is to give women permission to touch themselves at all. As a sex educator myself, I promise you, we have a LOT of work to do to get women to understand their own anatomy. More orgasms are good for everyone, and bless these folks for helping women understand theirs.

By: RevelryByNight

RevelryByNight — Tue, 05 Feb 2013 04:20:00 +0000

The scare quotes around completely legit phrases like “sex educators” should have clued you in.

By: noggin

noggin — Fri, 01 Feb 2013 16:57:00 +0000

(Note to self: google ‘prolactin inhibitors’).

By: chgoliz

chgoliz — Fri, 01 Feb 2013 14:53:00 +0000

“Male sexuality, on the other hand – whether it’s penile masturbation or prostate massage – is ALWAYS the butt of a joke.”

I admit, I reacted like a 13-year-old boy to that sentence.

By: Beanolini

Beanolini — Fri, 01 Feb 2013 14:28:00 +0000

It’s as though they all think they made it onto this planet the same way their messiah did.

They did.

By: futnuh

futnuh — Fri, 01 Feb 2013 11:05:00 +0000

If I’m in the area, I’ll be coming …

By: Olorwen

Olorwen — Fri, 01 Feb 2013 05:13:00 +0000

I <3 the Female Orgasm has been around for years. It was an annual event at the University of Maryland when I was there. Why is this news now?

By: Preston Sturges

Preston Sturges — Fri, 01 Feb 2013 02:02:00 +0000

I used to tutor that class, but it was noncredit and met in my ratty student apartment.

Giggity, giggity.

By: Halloween_Jack

Halloween_Jack — Fri, 01 Feb 2013 01:56:00 +0000

By: chgoliz

chgoliz — Fri, 01 Feb 2013 00:58:00 +0000

Who almost certainly aren’t wearing a promise ring from their dad.

Yeah, I can see the hidden sub-text now.

By: feetleet

feetleet — Fri, 01 Feb 2013 00:58:00 +0000

Right – but I defy you to find a university handing out ‘how to safely fuck your ass with a bed post’ pamphlets. Female sexuality is celebrated (if a little caricatured). The smorgasbord of paraphernalia speaks for itself. Male sexuality, on the other hand – whether it’s penile masturbation or prostate massage – is ALWAYS the butt of a joke.

Sure, there’s a comedy angle. Whether we’re talking about self-inflicted friction burns or anal trauma – female sexuality certainly doesn’t HURT people as often as male sexuality. There IS something innately slapstick about a dude an his lube. But even Lolcats have feelings. I mean, it’s 2013, and the ‘fifi,’ is only JUST NOW climbing the prison walls with Tenga, et al? Fuck. Me. In an alternate universe, GIRL Pee-wee has her own reality show by now.

It doesn’t even have to be one or the other. What about prolactin inhibitors – which can reduce/eliminate the refractory period for BOTH sexes? I want public-funded universities to research/teach THAT. Instead they’re reminding women they have clits? I like to imagine a little more sex dialogue/education for MEN could temper things like sexual aggression/homophobia. And a few generations of puritanism don’t obviate the O’Keefe that was every previous God.

Go on, snark about the ubiquity of porn. Great sensei that it is.

By: Antinous / Moderator

Antinous / Moderator — Thu, 31 Jan 2013 23:11:00 +0000

men can’t have intercourse without the erection

Penile stimulation is so last millennium. http://www.aneros.com/

By: Antinous / Moderator

Antinous / Moderator — Thu, 31 Jan 2013 22:27:00 +0000

You’re looking at this the wrong way. He’s actually advertising the event because he knows that his readers will take one look at the article and say, “Ooh! Underage pussy!”

By: chgoliz

chgoliz — Thu, 31 Jan 2013 22:18:00 +0000

News flash: men can engage in sex without an erection.

You do know there’s more than one way to have sex, right?

By: Antinous / Moderator

Antinous / Moderator — Thu, 31 Jan 2013 22:15:00 +0000

When I was at UCSF, the urology department was recruiting volunteers to test ejaculation by prostate stimulation.

By: heavystarch

heavystarch — Thu, 31 Jan 2013 22:13:00 +0000

So when are they going to BYU?

By: wysinwyg

wysinwyg — Thu, 31 Jan 2013 20:59:00 +0000

I can’t understand being angry or scared about something like this. Jealous, maybe, but not angry or scared.

By: Boundegar

Boundegar — Thu, 31 Jan 2013 20:37:00 +0000

The really funny part is, not only is sex education for children horrifying – it’s horrifying for adults too. The female orgasm is so icky NOBODY should know about it!

By: chellberty

chellberty — Thu, 31 Jan 2013 20:10:00 +0000

Yes both are Quality of life for both genders but men can’t have intercourse without the erection and you are complaining about not spending money on “better” orgasms? seems a bit specious to me.

By: lgatlin

lgatlin — Thu, 31 Jan 2013 20:02:00 +0000

So when I read the headline, I was thinking I’d enjoy reading about this and would send a link to my daughter, who is a sex educator (no scare quotes on her!) and is working towards a session like this at her university. It was the scare quotes that clued me in immediately, and I was dismayed about the tone of the article.
So what’s more interesting is that a lot of people probably DO read this as normal reporting, not realizing the slant.

By: Colin Curry

Colin Curry — Thu, 31 Jan 2013 19:42:00 +0000

Curious to know whether minors need parental permission to go to sex ed courses in Minnesota. Not that it matters – this event isn’t some sort of for credit academic course anyway. It’s like the author lives in some dream world where the internet and libraries don’t exist and he is the self-appointed campus protector of all young womens’ virtue. For people who hate being told what to do (see gun control), they sure love telling other people what to do.

By: SomeGuyNamedMark

SomeGuyNamedMark — Thu, 31 Jan 2013 19:37:00 +0000

I was working on this on my campus for years

By: Jorpho

Jorpho — Thu, 31 Jan 2013 19:33:00 +0000

Until you pointed it out, I actually thought this was a perfectly-neutral “what’s happening on campus” news article. I guess I wasn’t reading in-between the lines. Or the comments, for that matter.

Hardly the first time I’ve heard of this sort of workshop being conducted on a university campus, but then, I’m in Canada.

By: IronEdithKidd

IronEdithKidd — Thu, 31 Jan 2013 19:18:00 +0000

Wow. I tried reading the comments, but they didn’t make any sense. Why are these people so frightened of basic biological functions of humans? It’s as though they all think they made it onto this planet the same way their messiah did.

By: Rob Beschizza

Rob Beschizza — Thu, 31 Jan 2013 18:44:00 +0000

There’s this very sudden, weird trend of conservative men writing this sort of stuff. This post at Breitbart today is another good example: http://www.breitbart.com/Big-Hollywood/2013/01/18/girls-challege-conservatives

The idea is to “engage” — but they can’t help but dissolve into their own misogyny and resentment. It’s pretty cool.

By: mmenter30

mmenter30 — Thu, 31 Jan 2013 18:31:00 +0000

Is it difficult to believe that they really teach stuff about sex in sex education classes?

Is it difficult to believe that some rightwing foundation is scared of sex?

By: chgoliz

chgoliz — Thu, 31 Jan 2013 18:22:00 +0000

Yup. Scare quotes around the term “sex educators,” even.

And, horror of horrors, they don’t even protect the virtue of our young:

“The description of the event, which is hosted by the university’s Office of Diversity and Equity’s Women’s Center, does not say whether there is an age requirement. While the average age of undergraduates at UMTC is 21, it is not uncommon for students to enroll at the age of 17.”

By: Neural Kernel

Neural Kernel — Thu, 31 Jan 2013 18:21:00 +0000

So… should Minnesota be planning on some brownouts?

By: chgoliz

chgoliz — Thu, 31 Jan 2013 18:19:00 +0000

And….employers have no problem allowing the insurance companies to cover the cost for such pharmaceutical endeavors on behalf of their MALE employees.

By: lgatlin

lgatlin — Thu, 31 Jan 2013 18:11:00 +0000

There are millions of dollars in pharmaceutical endeavors engaged in helping men get it up, and a paltry 3406 dollars to help women understand their bodies’ sexual response better — the outrage!