Xeni Jardin at 9:52 am Thu, Feb 14, 2013
Wow. Someone is not in a Valentine’s Day mood.
Amanda Palmer is amazing and poignant and talented. I love her work. That being said, Fuck you for making me sad all of a sudden. WTH! I was having a nice day. Now I want to cry. You big JERK!
Wow, that was really affecting! Definitely a good pick for Valentine’s Day – I’ve rarely felt more appreciation for the joy I get from my relationship, and from our slightly-too-small-sometimes bed. Bravo!
One of our standing conversations, in fact, is how despite sometimes feeling a bit cramped (especially in the summer when things are toasty), we couldn’t go much bigger before something would be lost. My girlfriend worked in domestic service for a bit and the family she worked for had a bed three pillows wide – this song definitely helps you imagine the misery that could imply! I’ll stick with what I have and be thankful :)
That was beautiful and sad and affecting and everything… It made me cry.. And of course the communication problem that it chronicles is both awful and seemingly common… But I really wish she wouldn’t’ve chosen the bed as the metaphor for all of that! Some people sleep well with other people and like a small cuddly bed all the time. Other people find that a bigger bed or even separate beds let them be better-rested and happier, as well as more lovey and cuddly when they feel like it. The implication that sleeping without touching means frigidity and a lack of communication can, I think, keep people who might be much happier with more sleeping space from obtaining it, out of fear that their spouses or even other people might judge them for it. Some good info on the topic:
It’s useful because it conjures up images of people open-eyed and staring at the ceiling while their partners nod off, I don’t think the implication is that one has to be touching 24/7, I can’t see how anyone sane (or has lived with partners in the past) would come to that conclusion.
Sure, but the song was not about your experience, it only feels like it, that’s why its so affecting. But its Amanda’s.
That should have come with a warning about imminent crying for the watcher.
A dear friend once warned me to never get a king size bed, that it’s the worst thing for a relationship, because you never have to touch. I’ve taken that to heart.
It could be argued that there’s already something wrong with a relationship if you only touch because you have to.
Or alternatively, that insufficient sleep is the worst thing for a relationship.
It wasn’t an “always, in general” recommendation. I heard it as more about some night, after a disagreement, when things haven’t been settled, it might be a good thing to be in a bed where you can’t help but touch.
But I do agree that insufficient sleep can be horrible for a relationship.
I need a king-sized bed, I’m 6’2″ and have to sleep at an angle, so if I have tall partner we just need the space.
The style reminded me of Josh Ritter… http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gxWxiuJRApU
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