Comments on: Amanda Palmer: The Bed Song http://boingboing.net/2013/02/14/amanda-palmer-the-bed-song.html Brain candy for Happy Mutants Tue, 21 May 2013 07:23:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.1 By: Julie Gomoll http://boingboing.net/2013/02/14/amanda-palmer-the-bed-song.html#comment-1657123 Julie Gomoll Fri, 15 Feb 2013 21:04:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=212975#comment-1657123 It wasn't an "always, in general" recommendation. I heard it as more about some night, after a disagreement, when things haven't been settled, it might be a good thing to be in a bed where you can't help but touch. But I do agree that insufficient sleep can be horrible for a relationship. It wasn’t an “always, in general” recommendation. I heard it as more about some night, after a disagreement, when things haven’t been settled, it might be a good thing to be in a bed where you can’t help but touch.

But I do agree that insufficient sleep can be horrible for a relationship.

]]> By: ocker3 http://boingboing.net/2013/02/14/amanda-palmer-the-bed-song.html#comment-1656952 ocker3 Fri, 15 Feb 2013 16:54:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=212975#comment-1656952  I need a king-sized bed, I'm 6'2" and have to sleep at an angle, so if I have tall partner we just need the space.  I need a king-sized bed, I’m 6’2″ and have to sleep at an angle, so if I have tall partner we just need the space.

]]> By: Ray Perkins http://boingboing.net/2013/02/14/amanda-palmer-the-bed-song.html#comment-1656801 Ray Perkins Fri, 15 Feb 2013 11:50:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=212975#comment-1656801 The style reminded me of Josh Ritter... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gxWxiuJRApU The style reminded me of Josh Ritter… http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gxWxiuJRApU

]]> By: Beanolini http://boingboing.net/2013/02/14/amanda-palmer-the-bed-song.html#comment-1656789 Beanolini Fri, 15 Feb 2013 10:58:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=212975#comment-1656789 It could be argued that there's already something wrong with a relationship if you only touch because you have to.  Or alternatively, that insufficient sleep is the worst thing for a relationship. It could be argued that there’s already something wrong with a relationship if you only touch because you have to. 

Or alternatively, that insufficient sleep is the worst thing for a relationship.

]]> By: Julie Gomoll http://boingboing.net/2013/02/14/amanda-palmer-the-bed-song.html#comment-1656526 Julie Gomoll Fri, 15 Feb 2013 00:23:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=212975#comment-1656526 A dear friend once warned me to never get a king size bed, that it's the worst thing for a relationship, because you never have to touch. I've taken that to heart. A dear friend once warned me to never get a king size bed, that it’s the worst thing for a relationship, because you never have to touch. I’ve taken that to heart.

]]> By: Damian Barajas http://boingboing.net/2013/02/14/amanda-palmer-the-bed-song.html#comment-1656490 Damian Barajas Thu, 14 Feb 2013 23:38:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=212975#comment-1656490 Sure, but the song was not about your experience, it only feels like it, that's why its so affecting. But its Amanda's. Sure, but the song was not about your experience, it only feels like it, that’s why its so affecting. But its Amanda’s.

]]> By: C W http://boingboing.net/2013/02/14/amanda-palmer-the-bed-song.html#comment-1656313 C W Thu, 14 Feb 2013 21:32:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=212975#comment-1656313 It's useful because it conjures up images of people open-eyed and staring at the ceiling while their partners nod off, I don't think the implication is that one has to be touching 24/7, I can't see how anyone sane (or has lived with partners in the past) would come to that conclusion. It’s useful because it conjures up images of people open-eyed and staring at the ceiling while their partners nod off, I don’t think the implication is that one has to be touching 24/7, I can’t see how anyone sane (or has lived with partners in the past) would come to that conclusion.

]]> By: ethicalcannibal http://boingboing.net/2013/02/14/amanda-palmer-the-bed-song.html#comment-1656140 ethicalcannibal Thu, 14 Feb 2013 19:50:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=212975#comment-1656140 That should have come with a warning about imminent crying for the watcher.  That should have come with a warning about imminent crying for the watcher. 

]]> By: sarahcbagley http://boingboing.net/2013/02/14/amanda-palmer-the-bed-song.html#comment-1656108 sarahcbagley Thu, 14 Feb 2013 19:34:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=212975#comment-1656108 That was beautiful and sad and affecting and everything...  It made me cry..  And of course the communication problem that it chronicles is both awful and seemingly common...   But I really wish she wouldn't've chosen the bed as the metaphor for all of that!  Some people sleep well with other people and like a small cuddly bed all the time.  Other people find that a bigger bed or even separate beds let them be better-rested and happier, as well as more lovey and cuddly when they feel like it.  The implication that sleeping without touching means frigidity and a lack of communication can, I think, keep people who might be much happier with more sleeping space from obtaining it, out of fear that their spouses or even other people might judge them for it.  Some good info on the topic:   http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/01/09/AR2006010901549.html and http://www.nytimes.com/2007/03/11/us/11separate.html?pagewanted=all That was beautiful and sad and affecting and everything…  It made me cry..  And of course the communication problem that it chronicles is both awful and seemingly common…   But I really wish she wouldn’t've chosen the bed as the metaphor for all of that!  Some people sleep well with other people and like a small cuddly bed all the time.  Other people find that a bigger bed or even separate beds let them be better-rested and happier, as well as more lovey and cuddly when they feel like it.  The implication that sleeping without touching means frigidity and a lack of communication can, I think, keep people who might be much happier with more sleeping space from obtaining it, out of fear that their spouses or even other people might judge them for it.  Some good info on the topic:  
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/01/09/AR2006010901549.html
and
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/03/11/us/11separate.html?pagewanted=all

]]> By: Fang Xianfu http://boingboing.net/2013/02/14/amanda-palmer-the-bed-song.html#comment-1656076 Fang Xianfu Thu, 14 Feb 2013 19:04:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=212975#comment-1656076 Wow, that was really affecting! Definitely a good pick for Valentine's Day - I've rarely felt more appreciation for the joy I get from my relationship, and from our slightly-too-small-sometimes bed. Bravo! One of our standing conversations, in fact, is how despite sometimes feeling a bit cramped (especially in the summer when things are toasty), we couldn't go much bigger before something would be lost. My girlfriend worked in domestic service for a bit and the family she worked for had a bed three pillows wide - this song definitely helps you imagine the misery that could imply! I'll stick with what I have and be thankful :) Wow, that was really affecting! Definitely a good pick for Valentine’s Day – I’ve rarely felt more appreciation for the joy I get from my relationship, and from our slightly-too-small-sometimes bed. Bravo!

One of our standing conversations, in fact, is how despite sometimes feeling a bit cramped (especially in the summer when things are toasty), we couldn’t go much bigger before something would be lost. My girlfriend worked in domestic service for a bit and the family she worked for had a bed three pillows wide – this song definitely helps you imagine the misery that could imply! I’ll stick with what I have and be thankful :)

]]> By: RevWubby http://boingboing.net/2013/02/14/amanda-palmer-the-bed-song.html#comment-1655985 RevWubby Thu, 14 Feb 2013 18:17:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=212975#comment-1655985 Amanda Palmer is amazing and poignant and talented. I love her work.  That being said, Fuck you for making me sad all of a sudden.  WTH! I was having a nice day.  Now I want to cry. You big JERK! Amanda Palmer is amazing and poignant and talented. I love her work.  That being said, Fuck you for making me sad all of a sudden.  WTH! I was having a nice day.  Now I want to cry. You big JERK!

]]> By: Dmitry Petrovich http://boingboing.net/2013/02/14/amanda-palmer-the-bed-song.html#comment-1655954 Dmitry Petrovich Thu, 14 Feb 2013 18:01:00 +0000 http://boingboing.net/?p=212975#comment-1655954 Wow.  Someone is not in a Valentine's Day mood.  Wow.  Someone is not in a Valentine’s Day mood. 

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