Pick your fights, fight those that actually make sense and can further change. Picking every fight will only lead to you losing big in the end and hurting your cause. 

You know, the human individual that repeatedly cried wolf comes to mind.

Funnily enough that is pretty much the lesson she had to learn as well.

If she would have shown some kind of remorse / realization that she stepped way over the line the vast majority of people would probably have been way less aggressive about the whole thing. But she’s not and some of the online writeups are trying very very hard to paint her as the victim here.

Needless to say, I identify as a “capital F” feminist now. I, like many others, can be concerned about alienating language, as well as “what matters”. I am a feminist. I too believe in equal rights, and same pay for same job. 

And this all reminds me of of an old joke about floppy disks… One that I, as a woman, told dozens of times back when people still remembered what floppies were…

But even if it wasn’t, this would be a really nasty thing to do to an employee, especially since it wasn’t mandated by a huge PR incident.  Let him go in a month or two for “not fitting in with corporate culture”. 

Instead, in the mind of the public and future employers, they’ve ineluctably tied him to the sort of thing that *does* get you fired: persistent and egregious sexual harassment.

While I find puerile jokes, well, puerile, it’s a whole different kettle of fish from sexual harassment.

To my mind, the only truly egregious behaviour I see here is the two companies (as to the simply unfortunate behaviour of the two parties).

And with that all the humor drains away.  It’s one thing to joke about not wanting help to protect one’s fragile ego.  It’s another to then immediately accept help from a male. 

Suddenly it’s not about going mano a printo, it’s about who is a colleague.

I’d certainly be hurt in the same situation.

These days the landing page just says “we’re not accepting new affiliates anymore”, but until a couple of years ago it went straight to a hardcore porn site specializing in guys with… you guessed it! Great big dongles!

Antinuous, it was you who wrote that the key to the non-white American experience was being part of the underclass, not (just) racial hostility. You did this apparently to explain how it would be (categorically) impossible for a white person to ever gain any insight into the experience of a person who had experienced both of these, since they could never be part of the underclass anywhere in the world.

Then you ignored my point that there are many non-white people in the USA who experience the racial hostility but are not part of the underclass. Presumably they still have “authentic” experiences of what it means to be a non-white american, opening up the possibility of some shared understanding between them and white americans who had, somehow, experienced racial hostility.

I’m not sure what axe you have to grind here. You seem to be insisting that there can never be any mutual understanding of the experiences the members of various culturally created groups. I find it hard to believe that this is your position. If it is, I am very sorry for your loss.

But its not nothing, either.

The fact that it happened is not meaningless. The fact that you need to bang on about it in some mansplaining attempt to derail the conversation is something else.

The experience of being non-white in the USA is not about racial hostility, but racial hostility AND being part of the underclass?

Of course, I hope for your sake that you’re being deliberately obtuse. Black and white people in the US (or any similarly mixed-race country) might regard each other with equal measures of fear and hatred, but they still wouldn’t be treated equally and their experiences would have almost nothing in common.

Everybody’s been impressively polite up to now.

My standards aren’t based on your outlook. And we also have a rule about commenters saying the same thing over and over and over and over and over.