How to not get raped (video)

Trigger warning.

A satirical film in which a woman tries to follow all of the completely serious tips offered to women by the likes of Cosmopolitan, WikiHow and University of Colorado on how to avoid being raped. One of them is "fight like a psychotic cat." Another, "don't give a guy blue balls."

Directed by Cat Del Buono. Video Link.

(HT: Syd Garon)

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  1. The world needs a lot more 'how not to be a rapist' videos.

  2. The victim(s) are "asking for it" - by simply existing. They should know better than to walk down a street or sleep in their own bed, for example ! Or be between the ages of 0 - 110 years of age.

    Then the victims are blamed for not having prevented it. Or not having fought back the right way.

    Then the victims are labeled "crazy" for whatever they did to fight back, and "crazy" because they were traumatized, then disbelieved and scrutinized by the authorities and their peers when they report the rape. The victim will be quizzed about their sexual history - but the "accused"(rolls eyes) rapist won't be. No one ever asks the rapist why they chose to wear "provocative" underwear the day they raped somebody.

    Oddly - no one ever labels the rapist crazy. There are never any "Did you know you might be a rapist ? Take this quiz to find out" stories in men's magazines. Or stories about discovering a buddy is a raging misogynist, and how to effectively call him out about this.

    It's like there is some sort of...double standard operating here ?

  3. That's because many perpetrators do not even recognize that what they are doing is sexual assault. For example - their victim avoided them all night at a party, physically turned their back to avoid speaking to them, screamed and hit them when they were touched, screamed specific things like "NO !" ,"Stop!", "Don't touch me !" fought back HARD - and the perpetrator has a completely different account of the events - and tells his pals "She totally wanted it" and was a "total slut".

    Most men get all indignant if you ask them point blank "Are you a rapist ?" - and deny this as an absurd statement. However - when a questionaire was given where sexual assault was never named, but there were a scale of behaviours describing incidents of sexual coercion, violations of consent, violations of boundaries and power, and questions about a sense of entitlement - then a completely different picture emerged.

  4. I work on a college campus where, recently, I've seen several posters that say "Sex without consent is sexual assault." These are advertising informational sessions about sexual assault and rape, in an attempt to deal with the problem.

    I'm glad there's an educational effort going on, but I can't help feeling a little stunned that college students need to be told that sex without consent is sexual assault. I'm also not sure why they don't simply call it rape.

  5. http://www.theviolencestopshere.ca/dbtg.php

    Calling all sexual assault rape can be problematic, as it allows the possibility of denial of the harm caused, since it wasn't PIV or PIA sex - as though this is the only "legitimate"rape people should be concerned about. Sexual assault survivors describe a very wide spectrum of assaults that were intensely violating and terrorizing. It also becomes very heteronormative.

    While there are fewer incidences of sexual assault/violence that are not male perpetrator/female victim, there are other configurations of perpetrator/victim or types of sexual assault that do not involve penetration using a penis, which should be as seriously considered as "rapeRAPE".

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