On cancer and the holidays: "You look great"

"'You look good,' they say. This a compliment. Sometimes they say, "You don't look sick at all. You'd never know.' That is shorthand for, 'You don't look like you're dying but we know you are.'" Lisa Bonchek Adams, who has metastatic breast cancer, writes about what it's like to have cancer and deal with relatives and friends who say the wrong things during the holidays.