Notice in bar bathroom for women who need to get out of a date that's not going well

Snopes says the idea of asking for an "angel shot" to get out of a potentially dangerous situation is a mixture of truth and falsehood:

CLAIM: Women in a dangerous situation at a bar can order an angel shot to ensure safe passage into an Uber and away from a frightening man.

WHAT'S TRUE: A discreet sign posted at one restaurant in St. Petersburg, Florida, instructed women to order an "angel shot" if they felt they were in danger, or needed access help or to be escorted to an Uber.

WHAT'S FALSE: This practice does not appear to be widespread but depends upon a venue's staff being knowledgeable and trained to respond effectively, and abusers may know as much about the concept as potential victims.

Now that Snopes, Reddit, Redbook, and Good Housekeeping have covered this, asking for an angel shot probably won't work as well as it did, if it ever worked well in the first place:

The "angel shot" concept as broadly applied seems to have some less thought-through aspects. For one, issuing a clandestine call for help would generally only be necessary if a woman were within earshot of the individual she felt endangered by; otherwise, she could openly and directly ask for help instead of having to depend upon the chance that the bartender on duty knew the meaning of the "angel shot" code and that venue staff were trained to respond to it effectively.

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  1. TobinL says:

    depends if it is an acute or obtuse angle shot doesn't it?... err typo @frauenfelder but an amusing one.

  2. Oh, shit, that's my husband.. I have to go.

  3. The wall would seem to suggest that this service applies only to blind dates set up via phone apps.

    Girl: "Hi, um, I don't have much time, there's this really creepy guy who won't leave me alone, and um... angel shot!"
    Bartender: "Yeah, cool maam, which social media app did you say you met this guy through?"
    Girl:"It's not through a social media app, I just showed up here tonight and this guy is really nuts, could you help me? Angel Shot?"
    Bartender: "Hmm, gosh, I really want to help you, but as our bathroom wall says, this is really geared towards people who are in the middle of creepy blind dates..."
    Girl: "Well, maybe it's not exactly a blind date because we just met accidentally, but he really is scaring me and I could really use that Angel Shot..."
    Bartender: "You just met for the first time?"
    Girl: "No, I've seen him around... I mean, we've barely talked before... Angel Shot... is your manager here by any chance?"
    Bartender: "Jeez... I so want to help, but our policy is really geared towards making us look hip and 'with it' in the internet age, what with the advent of stalking that now uses the internet, on phone apps... try telling him you're not interested, and could you let the person behind you place their order?"

  4. What's the Venn overlap look like for "creepy person giving off violence/obsessive vibes" and "good tipper?"

  5. The point of this offering is that it isn't always that easy, especially for a woman. Even if there is no specific hint of violence, women have to guard against it at all times. The least sense of something being "off" should trigger action.

    I am a man and have been in situations in which I had to threaten to call the police. If I was a woman I have no doubt that even vocalizing my anxiety or making such a threat would greatly increase the level of danger.

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