Over at the Bold Italic, my friend Debbie Hampton wrote a heartfelt, no-nonsense, funny, and informative essay titled "How To Survive A Divorce":
...California is a no-fault state, meaning the dissolution of our marriage didn’t require a showing of wrongdoing by either person. Thank. God. Because I did some serious wrongdoing. There were addiction issues (mine) and excessive career demands (his). I got lost for a while. There are an endless amount of bad choices to be made if one wants to focus their attention away from a divorce. I drank. I started smoking again. I became a crappy friend. These choices caused a shit-ton of wreckage that I now have to work through as well. So don’t do that. Look at the divorce as an opportunity to grow, not an excuse to go backwards.
The legality of splitting up is absolutely overwhelming. California is a community property state, meaning all the crap you acquire during your marriage is equally owned. So there’s the potentially nail-biting adventure of dividing up furniture, plates, art, and everything else. We didn’t have this problem. Neither of us cared much for stuff.
"How To Survive A Divorce"
Oh, the horror! Wife trolls husband by screaming Alanis Morissette song for a month pic.twitter.com/G8H9jeLxdY — The Dad (@thedad) September 14, 2018 Image: Twitter
This video by sketch comedy duo Amanda King and Kieran Humphries of Dogfood cleverly explores the idea of “breaking up” in video conferencing. I won’t say anymore, just watch “Breaking up.”
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