The "transactional love economy"


"Do you ever see a super-old guy…with a super-young girl…and wonder, how the hell did that happen?" Here's what we're calling it now.

Scrooge McFuck (not his real name) does not want a chub or an older girl (say, over 30), and he does not want "a black," and yes, maybe you'll think he's a jerk, but he wants what he wants, and what is so wrong with that?

Okay, says Kitten, but what she means is that this is really no different from what a stay-at-home mom does with her working husband: You earn the money and I'll do this other thing we need. The world is built on compromise and negotiation, and life is a series of small humiliations. All these arguments are in service of telling me that it's only our ingrained puritanism that brings us to judge formalized arrangements like this. …

For Tigress, the question is not whether she's a prostitute. It's whether the rest of us are idiots.

"We went to Naples," he told me. "It's sooo beautiful. Have you ever been?" No, I told him, I'd never been to Italy. He furrowed his brow and corrected me.

"It's right near Sarasota."

Yes, Sugar Daddies Explained—"I have been exposed to no small amount of sociopathy, delusion, denial, and misogyny in the reporting of [this story]"—is an intensely, splendidly depressing article.

UPDATE: Be sure to catch Mallory Ortberg's response, too: Two Ways of Writing About Sex Work

Photo: cover art from the unreleased "What's Your Wife Worth?" app by Ashley Madison